Problems dating black men
Does dating a white person make you any less black? But it’s a complicated issue, one that British author Zadie Smith (author of ).
Smith asks Adichie to reflect upon the pleasure they both feel in the fact that US president Barack Obama married Michelle Obama, a dark-skinned black woman.
It doesn’t make my family immune to structural racism and state violence.
And when he admitted that I’d be the first non-white woman to meet them, I almost jumped off the train.
“But then I have to ask myself, well if he married a mixed-race woman, would that in some way be a lesser marriage? “If it was a white woman, would we feel differently?
”“Yes, we would,” Adichie responds without hesitation, to a chorus of approving laughter. “When I think of my own family: I’m married to a white man and my brother is married to a white woman.
Each time she marries, is she in a different status with her own blackness? Does my partner’s whiteness have any effect on my blackness?
His whiteness hasn’t prevented the microaggressions and presumptions I face daily.
When the Grey’s Anatomy actor Jesse Williams, who is black, announced he was ending his 13-year relationship with his black wife Aryn Drake-Lee—and confirmed he was dating a white co-star—many jumped at the chance to question Williams’ dedication to social justice and, more specifically, black women.